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My Wife Clare

When my second wife Sue died, Clare telephoned me to console me and asked if we could meet.  We already knew each other as acquaintances, for I was a friend of her husband 'Stan' who died of cancer like my wife.  I did not look for a young wife deliberately.

She was a catch for me.  Even now sometimes, I look at her and I just can't believe that I am so damn lucky to have her as my own, and to know that she really loves me.  I will be honest - she's my dream - woman in every way.  In spite of the age gap - people - lots of people - say that we make a natural couple and look as if we're made for each other.  Added to this is the fact that we're very demonstrative about how we feel for each other, and show our affection in public - we always hold hands when we walk in the street, and often kiss in public.  Our behaviour is not very English at all - but then I am not English anyway - so I don't care!  She's not at all interested in other men, and is not flirtatious with younger men - when a female friend perhaps makes some remarks or reference to some young man or other, Clare will often laugh and comment "He hasn't even get the cradle marks off his bottom yet!"

She's just not interested in younger men - a fact that makes me very happy of course!  Clare was a tremendous catch for me and my little "El hijo de la vejez" is the best gift that she could have given me, and who knows - maybe other little hijos or hijas will come along to join the Evans team! {Two more came along after this was written.]

Because I am old, I have the patience and forbearing to handle things which would be difficult for a young man - I can lie with the baby for hours playing with him and keeping him amused, without becoming bored.  I can take an interest in the little details of life that women hold to be so important, but men often ignore or profess indifference.  I notice very small details about my surroundings - and women like that too!

I'd have made a good assistant to Sherlock Holmes, I am practical and pragmatic as well as being a romantic and a dreamer - which is an unusual combination!

The strange thing again is that I have never been attracted to younger women during my life  - but usually to older women or women more my own age  - younger women usually bored me.  Nevertheless, sometimes life deals from the bottom of the pack when you least expect it - God is a rascal and a confirmed cheat sometimes!